At a turning point

[Tim297181]

Glad to hear things went well today!
Keep focused and you will achieve your goals. Don't obsessabout detatchment just try to think of it as you moving on with your life!

[PArob]

Not much to update, really. The rest of Sunday went extremely well. W and I sat on the couch and watched a movie. Seems to be our Sunday thing now, either movie or football, which is A-OK with me. We really didn't get to talk much, but before she left for work she did broach the subject about the note and apologized to me because I shouldn't have been placed in a position to read it. Interesting.

Not much really to report other than staying true to my goals.

[grasshopper]

Rob,

Sticking to your goals is HUGE news and really good for you. Just because you don't have a thesis to post does not mean it's not important.
Great job!

GH

[PArob]

Here is at least one stated goal: Usually I start the downhill slide near the end of the week as W gets worn down from the job, etc. Thursdays are usually the worst for me. My goal is to remain upbeat all week, take things in stride and realize that her emotions are not personal.

[grasshopper]

Dood, that is my thought to a T! If I can do that, I really think it will prove something to myself and her as well. Lets try it together (er...uh....you know what I mean).

GH

[PArob]

Yes, we can do our STATED GOAL together

I'll be your cheerleader if you'll be ..... wait that doesn't sound right either......

[grasshopper]

Just don't put your hand up my skirt...er...uh....ah forget it!

GH

[WantToSaveIt]

Good, simple goal PArob.

I think I might steal yours for myself. While I did mention in my daily update today that I am still being sensitive to her normal criticisms/anger/etc., I had an extra thing to deal with the past few days: since she hurt her shoulder last week, and the pain wasn't improving by Fri., the doc put her on steroids. I understand those things can make one very moody. I should have detached from her bad moods as much as I have been working on detaching from everything else as well. I don't know what I look like, but she has said things, and I'm sure pouty faces from me when she gets moody isn't very attractive.

Also, it's interesting that I think we are opposite in how you and I cope through the week. Monday's are actually toughest for me because we go back to work, and are apart, and also, it's mostly been work where she has communicated with OM, and now I have no way of knowing whether she still is or not.

But at home, I feel much safer than in the past, because even if she is still having A, she will not use computer at home, so I know there is no contact on weekends, and we are together for the most part.

Sounds like you're doing a good job and you are very much like I was shortly after discovery, but you are doing all the right things now. You might be out of the woods far sooner than me because you're keeping your head screwed on tight.

Stay on target.

[PArob]

Just don't put your hand up my skirt...er...uh....ah forget it!

I don't think that is what DB/DR had in mind for a 180....

[PArob]

Thanks WTSI...I don't know about having my head screwed on straight, but I have to focus on clear goals and that seems to be one that I DO have control over. My W can be moody at certain times and believe me, it has tested my emotional detachment...but, she said something to me one day (or wrote it in a letter) that really made stop a realize something...she said she wasn't sure why she was moody (probably hormonal), but I shouldn't take it personally...she knows I think she's being cold and uncaring, but she's not...she figures that I am just more aware of her moods now. Yup, good point. Every time I see her down,upset, etc. I immediately think "aha, she must be thinking of OM!" Truth be told, she's always been moody. That's why I MUST not personalize her moods, etc...I can't if I want to remain sane.