You are just sensitive to not making mistakes. All of us acknowledge that we played a part in the demise of our marriage. You have acknowledged that and now, in reconciliation, you want to make sure you don't do whatever it was again. Normal. Also, detachment is scary because you may be afraid she will perceive it as you being cold, or uncaring. That's why I think it's important for you to keep thinking of detaching is ONLY controlling or negating your reaction to her emotions/moods/actions/words, and mainly controlling your reactions to the negative iterations for right now. Also, the things that form in your mind, i.e. why didn't she call, etc. are not to be reacted to either. They are even more insidious than reality and need to be detached from or eliminated. Ah, but it's also important to keep centered (your words, I like them) in the face of her positive emotions as well. Realize that she's got a TON of stuff going through her mind. She may be acting "normal" but she's no more normal than you, and lest you forget, you've spent a LONG time reading, posting, and being introspective about all this. You've gotten help. I bet she's just still living with this on her own, or possibly venting to friends. C helps, but again, you have done more that C. I am rooting for you SO much. I think you have a GREAT shot at this. Keep up the good work and keep us posted!
