In reading your post, I felt that you handled your Ws illness with love and attentivenes...nothing whatsover wrong with it.
Something I read last night in Mars and Venus...that I'll share because it really shed some great light on the diffence between men and women.
Men want to fix women's emotions and women want to fix men's behaviours.
Interesting eh? Explains why men sometimes feel helpless when women cry...wanting to fix things when probably all we need is a big ole hug, smooch some validation and if we need more then we will let you know.
As for the difference between detachment and resignation over the TM from wife...perhaps a bit of both...you were resigned to the fact that it was out of control regarding what she may/may not be doing and therefore you detached. The key would be to detach in the first place so that the thought process wouldn't start...but hey it was definitely a baby step.
Okay...so Im not seeing your needs/wants here and your story...is it in a past thread? Come on...cause right now this is about you and focusing on you, right?
