PaRob good to hear from you again.
From reading your post the advice you are recieving is sound and you are on the right track.
I think many of us has either heard

"PLEASE know that I love you so very much and I am so VERY sorry about everything, more than I can express. I want my life back. Please know I am trying to move on with all I got. I hope you can be patient and wait for me. This is where I want to be. Please know this. YOU are my life I KNOW THAT. I NEED to work out my emotions and I WILL. I LOVE YOU"

My W said this several times but the key word i missed was "PATIENCE". It is so easy to push and jump forward. Stay on course and build yourself up so when you do get back together you can be confident in the person you have become!

Tim my story http://www.divorcebusting.com/ubbthreads/showflat.php?Cat=&Number=1049617&page=&view=&sb=5&o=&fpart=1&vc=1