You're right NYS, I need to take more time and read through some of those posts.
And WTSI, thank you. reading through a lot of you replies was helpful too because I see myself reacting in those ways when I just need to "chill" and take it for what its worth.
"Achieve success, but without vanity; Achieve success, but without aggression; Achieve success, but without gain; Achieve success, but without force." Lao Tzu