Moving on II

[kaydeekay]

Hi Hopefloats!

Did your H. move out and then move back? If so, how long was he gone?

Boy did he ever. I'll list it for you:

1) Left 10/22/04 - returned 11/29/04
2) Left 12/10/04 (at my request) - returned 1/31/05
3) Left 2/15/05 (dropped bomb about A) - returned 4/20/05
4) Left 5/7/05 (at my request) - returned 5/24/05
5) Left 7/6/05 H asked for D - H filed D papers 7/18/05
6) Returned 9/11/05 after H and OW had major blow up.

H has been, I rather should say his things, have been in my home since 9/11. He has been saying that we are not together and that he is only in the home to help me out. I think this is a way for him to have the security of a home/wife and yet he could live a life of a single man.

Sunday night after the superbowl game (Yeah Steelers!) things were good. H and I met up at a bar. H asked the number of my friend and I asked him why? (Well earlier that day I had texted H if he was going to move out by the end of the week because my friend needs a place to stay; which she doesn't but I wanted him out becuase H was only to be staying with me temporarily until he found his own place). H replied to my question "Why? Do think I'm going to hook up with her?" I gave him this go to hell look and asked him what was he talking about. Then he boasts (of course he is drunk too) that he has been other women since we separated. Of course I tore into him and told him what a lousy person he was, a terrible father, a terrible H, blah, blah, blah. And then, as H was sitting in a bar stool I shoved him and he fell backwards. I walked out and he starts following me and yelling at me. My sister and two other friends of hers (males) came out to see what was going on. My sister took me home and H was already there. H and I started arguing again and it go a little physical - not too bad. H leaves and we continue to argue on the phone. I ended up throwing all of his clothes out in the middle of the garage floor.

I had already taken Monday as a day off. H tries to call me several times but I wouldn't answer the phone. So today (Tuesday) H calls me at work and begins to tell me that he had replied to my text message on Sunday, which I didn't recieve. I asked him what it had said. H first off tells me that he is sorry for our little altercation. H feels that he has hit rock bottom. He said the days that he was sleeping me with felt good and it felt like it used to feel like between us. H felt like he had his family again. He wants to be the best H ever. H wants only me. I told H that he would have to prove a lot in order for me to trust him again. He said that he knows that.

So that's where I'm at today. I don't know if he can change into a better person or not. To me, it feels as though he is trying to manipulate me into letting him back into the home because he doesn't have a place to live.