Thanks hope-
I have tried to visualize me getting my own apartment and setting it up how i want it. Its strange, though, b/c i have never lived on my own before. Having to be responsible for all of the finances is going to take some getting used to.

I just feel like my H is accelerating this whole thing. I know i focus way too much on what he says and does...and i should stop. Its just very confusing for me (like that phone call from last sunday night).

I might see him tomorrow...visiting day. We'll see what happens. It seems like, sometimes, when he starts to get close to me, he does something to really pull away.

I thought of something before, after reading that link that NYS posted to you...is it possible that, subconsciously, our H's are detaching from us?

Thank you for your kind words. I am just feeling very desperate tonight and i am scared.