Slow down and take a deep breath. Even if you sell your house that is not the end of the world. It does not mean that there is no hope. Your H may very well not be able to afford the place on his own and he does not want to be backed into a corner. Maybe not having that weight on him will free up his thinking in other areas.
You said your H could have filed for D any time in the past two years. Refresh my memory. How long have you been living apart? I guess I'm glad to be living somewhere with conservative D laws--my H will not be able to file until we've been living apart (and no sex) for a year.
Anyway, keep your chin up. Remember this is a rollercoaster so even though you're down now things cannot stay that way for too long.
