Your family just doesn't want to see you hurt. I know it's hard but don't let it bother you. I have begun screening what I tell my family. A good friend of mine broke up with her boyfriend and told her parents all the mean, horrible things he'd done. Then when they got back together and eventually married it was hard for her parents to forgive him.
Be glad your H is calling you. Mine won't return any of my calls and goes out drinking to avoid me. Getting ready an hour before the vet doesn't sound like that much time, particularly if you have to hunt the cats down like I do. How is it that cats always know?
I know things may not seem to be moving forward, but I must say you seem to have a lot of contact with your H--you see him every week and talk regularly. I doubt he'd bother if he didn't want to contact you.
