Thanks for posting Ellie. I know that it is bogus. I guess the point he is trying to make is that it doesn't make any sense why i would have chosen to be friends with someone who was interested in me, and who thought i was interested in him (there is more to the story, about things the other guy said and did that indicated he was interested in more than just a friendship and that he thought i was too) at a time when we were trying to put our M back together. And, he's right. He even said he wouldn't have been surprised if i had done it the year before i moved out when he was being a real jerk - he thinks that would have made more sense to him. I think what is significant for him is that he sees this episode as another thing i did to put a wedge b/w us...that i engage in self-destructive behavior (again, more to it - i won't get into it), but he is right in a way. I spent a lot of time pushing him away, and he feels this was another way to push him away. I think he believes more happened - he even referred to the guy last night as my boyfriend. I think it is the lying that bothers him the most. I do know that he could be projecting - believe me, my C and i have discussed this. I do believe that there has been someone else, and that he goes back and forth b/w us. I think that she gave him an ultimatum, and he chose her. I just wish he wasn't so anxious to throw us away.
Last night, i told him i was sorry that he chooses to define our R by that one incident, instead of focusing on a lot of the good things, and that i believed he only thinks about the negatives. He said he didn't, but who knows.
I just don't know where to go from here...what do i do?
