Quote: Its hard to feel loveable when the one person who chose to love you for the rest of your life no longer feels that way...the rejection is unbearable.
That's just it. That's what we have to wrap our brains around -- they're not rejecting us. It's not that we're not good enough, or smart enough, or hot enough --- WE ARE. They are just too selfasborbed and too wound up in their own issues to realize that we were want they wanted in the first place. None of us strongarmed our WAS into marriage. They're as much a part of this as we are. They've simply lost their way. The question is, are we willing to wait it out to see if they can find the way back to the path.
Quote: i mean, really, how does he live with himself?
that's just it... they don't get it. Even when they say they get it --- they don't. They can't. ESPECIALLY when there is an OW. In order for OW to be the best thing since sliced bread, we have to be the worst of everything. We have to be everything that hinders their happiness. And we all know that's ridiculous. You hang in there. And you figure out what's best for YOU. Because you're amazing. And the person that's going to love you for the rest of your life (whether it's H or not), is going to be darn lucky.
