Lol! Thankfully, Sassy and I already know what the other looks like, so we will be able to find each other. Just come in and announce that Imdi’s here!
I think you are very fortunate that your H. actually suggested things like MC. Mine did nothing whatsoever. The only thing he ever did was to send me a very long email in the fall of 2003 when he was away at school with the military. It was about a month after he’d come home for a weekend visit, and he’d done something to ruin that visit, and he’d left to go back to school on bad terms with me. In that email he wanted us to go away on a nice vacation together once he got back. We did eventually go, in the winter of 2005, and had a wonderful time. Now I see it as him trying to get us to both “run away” from our problems; maybe he thought a trip away together was going to solve his unhappiness. A month after this vacation, he met o.w. The more I read about the other WAH’s involved here, the more I see how emotionally immature my H. is. I think a lot of you have far better chances of reconciling than I do. My H. may not want to entirely let me go, but he doesn’t have the maturity to handle working things out the right way. I think I’m scared and sad all at once. Imdi, don’t let the fact that you were the “ow” before discourage you. You actually were and are the exception, in that you did get married and have been for many years. This doesn’t happen that often. And he hasn’t filed yet, so things are not over yet. Considering all the positive interaction you have with your H., I’d say you are one of the LBS’s that has a much better chance of reconciling. Keep going!!
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
