Thanks Rob. I suppose you are the one to answer that because of your dual citizenship on planet reality and planet fake bliss. lol. So, you are saying that it wasn't even about the negatives of your home-life, it was more about the positives of the OW? You're saying that those things did not factor because you just didn't think about them when you were in the "fog"? I see my W acting tired all the time. She doesn't spend as much time with the boys and when she does, she seems strained. I have been perceiving that as a combined reaction to the stress/A and the difficulty of our life right now. You are saying that it may be ALL attributed the the A and not necessarily a factor in her decision to stay or go? I don't think there is much I can do, but it kills me when I am doing my best DB thing and things are going great, then a stack of bills arrives, or the kids decide to have one of their "days" and the negatives of our life out-shadow anything I could do. Yes, yes, yes, I am making the changes for my own good, but as usual, I am honest in expressing the hope that they will have some positive effect on my M.
