Ok, framed like that, I appreciate what you are getting at. I agree, if you are motivated by fear, then you most likely will fail at whatever you seek to attain. Of course, fear can also be healthy if it merely keeps you safe from what may harm you. You just can't be ruled by it. Am I afraid of divorce? Sure I am. Would I like not to be? I guess. That is all part of detachment, moving on, etc. Eventually we want to get to a place where we are complete within ourselves and we do not need our WAS to fill a hole in us. Sadly, for many of us, it's been so many years of them playing that part in our lives that it may talk longer than we'd like to fill it ourselves. Fear sucks. I was full of it last night and it made me do and say some things I did not like. Fear still has a bit of a hold on me now, but I am working to overcome it. They say sometimes you only get past a fear by facing it head on. Well, that business card I found for a divorce lawyer in my kitchen did a pretty good job of starting me down that road.
