And hey, you shouldn't let go here either. Whatever is happening right now isn't a result of your financial standing, it really is more to do with how she is feeling right not. What's to say that she'd be any better off with OM or even if she had to live on her own? I really don't know enough about your sitch, but I know that what is happening isn't a result of financial situations, my W and I have been so down and out in the past, but we worked together to get where we are. In reality, we aren't all THAT bad off, just not a whole lot of disposable cash to throw around. But we have our house, our vehicles, health, etc. If it were just money, that would be one thing, but this mess we have ourselves in as a whole lot more to do with it..the intangibles....emotional need, etc.
Stay focused on your efforts GH, remain as positive as you can, give her space but be supportive! Your efforts will pay off one way or the other.
"Achieve success, but without vanity; Achieve success, but without aggression; Achieve success, but without gain; Achieve success, but without force." Lao Tzu
