The book is very interesting and I see merit, but I guess this is where I get hung up...I'm validating her feelings (well, trying to most of the time), but where's my validation for my feelings?

Okay, maybe that's more of a devil's advocate question because I already know that the validation of my feelings must come at a later time when things have moved to where they are going to go.

"Achieve success, but without vanity; Achieve success, but without aggression; Achieve success, but without gain; Achieve success, but without force." Lao Tzu