If you haven't already, you should try to get the book I Don't Have to Make Everything All Better.
I have been trying to find that around here. I suppose I will order it online. That will be my next read. Thanks.
Sometimes its hard to agree with those feelings when they seem so irrational...but that's part of validation. They are THEIR feelings, not ours and because they are unique, special people, those feelings have merit.
Yes, I suppose. It is VERY hard to even SEEM like I am agreeing with some of the stuff she says. This is semantics I know but (sorry NYS) when I am arguing with my W over her feelings, I am not telling her she is wrong to feel that way. I am telling her that what she thinks happened, or thinks I feel, that CAUSED her to feel a certain way is incorrect. I suppose that's just another way of rationalizing not validating someone.
