I used to process, talk and badger to death about issues that I had no control over. Do those things still bother me? Well, yeah, but I have the ability to let them go a LOT quicker than I used to.
Rob, you hit it right on! I haven't really thought of that before, but like last night. The convo ended and I just went on to watching TV. I did not pursue it. That is a DRAMATIC change in me. I would talk something to death for hours if my W would stay in the room and take it. This convo lasted about 15-20 min and then I let it drop. Sure, did I have a million things to ask her? Was I disappointed that she chose to say so little? Did I want to clarify, and re-clarify what I said instead of giving her the benefit of the doubt that she heard me? Sure, I wanted to do all that, but I did not.
Back to last night though, she kept telling me I was giving her no credit. Somehow, my lack of trust about what she is or is not capable of doing behind my back is my fault! Oh well, agree with her feelings, don't argue and validate. Rinse and repeat.
GH
P.S. I hear the guy with the keys coming down the hall...
