Holy crap. I didn't realize just how far off the path I really was. That part about WAS taking detachment as more of the same was straight out of my thinking from 3 weeks ago, before I realized the key to detaching:
Detachment is not about acting "gone" or "aloof". If detachment is nothing but disengaging from old reactive negative behaviors that result in loss of one's PMA and add fuel to the pain of the WAS, then detachment is a good thing.
Thank you again for setting me sorta straight. DON'T REACT to WAW's stuff. I thought that was SO easy for a couple days last week. I had it right when I said it was only because there really was nothing much to react to. She went out the first night I "saw the light" and I only think I did so well that night because I had a C session hours before. I need to get control of myself. I am not only reacting to her, I am OVER reacting to her. She even said so herself. "You still do it now. I understand but you are still doing your over reacting thing you've always done. I can't go out to get milk without you pacing around, looking like you're going to have a nervous breakdown." Damn, and I thought I did ok covering that up. Guess not.
