Ok, so I breathe. Now what. Like I said, she seems like she's going to talk to me after talking to the lawyer. Sure, she could say anything, OR she could say she's filing tomorrow. So I just say "Ok honey, I don't agree, but if that's what you want, then go for it. Have a nice life"? There are stronger men than I. I don't think that's what would come out of my mouth. She said "this is her person to talk to, like I have someone to talk to." I go to a C to try to help myself and the marriage and she goes to a D lawyer? Ok fine, I can't control her. She's irrational. She's insane. Whatever. The bottom line is, because of a lot of complicating factors not the least of which is her parents, there will be SO much havoc and damage done by a D, there will be no turning back. She knows this. It's what she wants. She as much as said that in the bomb drop convo. She's sick of pleasing everyone else. She's out for her now. Well, this is the best way to sever all ties at once and she knows it. Then she will be free to go with Mr. Right into the sunset. The worst part is I have NO idea what her intentions are for custody. She claimed she would never want the boys to be without me but who knows what the OM and lawyer tell her. Ok, so like you said, I am speculating. Well, she is telling lies and ones that if I don't see through them, could end up costing me (not financially) if I get blind-sided with papers. Thank you all for your advice, especially you Dragon, you're a welcome new voice.
