Thanks Rob. I have the 5 Love Languages and I really believe what it says. I posted my dilemma about that awhile ago but I will re-state it here.
I think my W is an Acts of Service. She values things being done for her without asking. She is also a bit Gifts as well. So far as I know, she IS NOT Physical Touch, but I am 99% that. Problem is that even before all this started, and I read anything, I realized that I was not doing enough for my W. I changed that. I started doing the little (and big) things that needed to get done. I did things for us, and for her. Really, I have always been one to "service" her in that I always asked her if she needed anything, would bring her drinks, etc. I know that the WAY I did this was wrong, but the intent was there. As for the Gifts thing, I can't claim to have kept up with that. I am not really even sure if she likes that because everything (well, maybe not everything) I have ever gotten her, she found fault with unless it was just what she asked for. When I read that, it makes her look like a selfish b!tch but she never was before. She sacrificed a lot so I could pursue my career(s) and raise our boys. She gave of herself tirelessly until a few months ago and then snapped. So, I have tried and maybe found what language my W speaks, but I think I have been speaking that language for months now and it doesn't register at all. I am so frustrated right now. I don't think she cares about anything I say or do because she's "in love" and no matter what I do, it will pale in comparison to what he does. It's funny because I don't want to put the kids in the middle of this but it seems like they are my only chance at getting her to realize what's at risk since she's totally oblivious to me right now. I won't use them to that end though. I want to, but I know it's wrong for a number of reasons.
