GH, I don't really know if telling her now would make any difference...I think she'll only see it as a "ploy" and its not likely to affect her thinking. Remember, affection is just more than physical touch..if you buy into the theory of the Five Love Languages, it could be any number of things. In my sitch, I guarantee my W is not a Physical Touch, but more likely Words of Affirmation and/or Acts of Service. Have you identified those things in your W? If so, start acting upon them and see if you can get any reaction. Its best to do those things subtly and work up over time.

Secondly, do not place all the blame on yourself here. Its easy for each one of us to do that, goodness knows I've been guilty of it a lot of times, but its not JUST you. There ARE things you can do about it. Keep applying DB principles, learn to speak her langauge (but only subtly at this point because otherwise you many appear genuine) and try to detach to the best of your ability. You were very strong once, you can be very strong again. I know it.

"Achieve success, but without vanity; Achieve success, but without aggression; Achieve success, but without gain; Achieve success, but without force." Lao Tzu