I am struggling with the fact that I have always loved my W dearly but now I find that I never had the communication skills to let her know/feel that. How do I deal with that knowledge now? I can be specific with her. I can tell her all those years when she thought all I wanted was sex I really wanted affection but didn't know to just speak, or how to act in a way that was non-sexual. Should I tell her this?
I think she won't care since she's obviously got a man who "just knows" what to do but then again, I think she feels that I simply didn't want affection outside of sex. She has said as much. That couldn't be farther from the truth but does it pay now to tell her that, or too little too late. I can't really SHOW her I know what to do now because we're not touching at all now. This really hurts, to know exactly how you screwed up and not be able to do a damn thing about it.
