Grasshopper Im sorry, we are in the same boat,I have had a few blow ups and I learned it moves me farther from my goal.And I know it hard not to snoop.Im about to do the same,I guess Im a need to know person .I have seen pictures,but I dont know who she is.I think it will help me for some reason.So I think you should move into repair mode, the reason I say this is no matter how painfull a situation is if we dont try we will never know what we could have had.My best friend had a much worse situation and has restored her M completly {her H had an affair for 3 years}. They are more in love now than they were in younger years.Keep your faith, I know its sooooo hard.
