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I am SO PROUD OF YOU! You did not react, acted "as if" in the face of an internal stuggle with your emotions- and you are a better man for it!
Its a wonderful, tangible, demonstration of your inner strength and courage. That you are a better person than to allow youself to be dragged into the mess W has created
Really, I wish two months ago I had this board, everyone's insight, b/c I've been in the same exact sit and I reacted to the messages and my emotions and it was HORRIBLE. Absolutley horrible.
I think it's Vince who recommended filing your knowledge away for some point later in the future. I think that is wise advice, especially if you and your W ever decide to reconcile. That may be a more appropriate time to bring up what you uncovered... as a lead in to things wifey can do to make you feel more assured of her love and commitment to you.
I know it's hard to "act" in front of family; trust me, I got to go over to my folk's place tomorrow and "act" along side H that everything is fine in our R... cause lord knows, if they knew the truth.... H would not be getting a bday gift from them, let alone be welcomed into their house!!!!

Just keep in mind the bigger picture- what did snooping accomplish? Did it make you feel good? What did it do about your opinion of wife? And what would it accomplish if you shared your "information" with wife? Make things better or worse? Improve her opinion of you in her eyes, or worsen it?

And last lesson- NO MORE SNOOPING! But you already knew that, didn't you?

Let us know how the rest of your son's bday plays out.

PetiteFlower Quote: Follow Your Bliss ~Joseph Campbell