Oh little Grasshopper, don't be so hard on yourself. Sure a R can start that way, but from what you've described with your W it seems like you couldn't have sustained your R so long if there wasn't more to it than being needed.
I'm no shrink but maybe you are just perceiving that you don't have worth to women unless they "need" you.
That's all for now. I'm anxiously awaiting to see what others have to say about your recent self-discovery.
