I am going to interject here a bit...breathe in peace and breathe anxiety...come on GH...do this with me.
Okay, now that we have the breathing under control. Step back and let's think this through a bit. You are obviously frustrated, I can hear you screaming all the way in Dallas. One of the things you learn from reading the Good Feeling book and a few other of the books is that quite often, we project other peoples feelings onto ourselves. We even go so far as to work ourselves up into a tizzy when we don't know the whole situation.
I have my own business...worked out of my home for 9yrs before opening my store. Things have slowed down for me since hiring one of my dearest friends. But my daughter spent 3hours with me last week...on her way home she said, Mom is this a typical day for you? Yes, babe why? Because I am so sorry that you have to go through this, I'm exhausted, don't wanna go to Church tonight...you wore me out...LOL.
Your first suspicion is that she's been with om all morning and now has to get the stuff ready for the party. You don't know what she has been doing. Let me tell you, you are not alone in knowing all the behind the scenes stuff that is done...just like we don't know how your days go. I know many men think that their stay-at-home wives do nothing all day but eat bon bons and watch All My Children...I'd say in most cases that's not true at all. Have you ever stopped and shared each other's days with one another, in a healthy way? You have no idea what she was really doing and even if she told you, you would have to decide if you were going to take her at her word or not. Okay.
When did she know about the sign up. How long has she known? I am confused about the time difference, it went from 4 to 2? She probably does have alot of stuff to do to get the party together tomorrow. Okay? I'm not trying to defend her here, Im just trying to show you that there are two sides here and you have no idea what she is thinking.
She sounds to me like she's about to break...is this normal hurried behaviour for her. She sounds extremely stressed out babe...trust me I am a woman here. I know, my life is full of stress...just in the last 6mos have I started to restructure my life and slow things down. It sounds to me like she feels that she is responsible for everything having to do with the family.
Do me a favor GH, on your way home tonight...stop off and pick up Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. There is a section on there that just described this exact situation. That's why I am just saying slow down, breathe....
I am a bit concerned in your last post about previous expression of anger...can we talk about this about...examples...
