Ok, if you read my last few posts about this phone call I had with my W about my S5's soccer...
THIS IS WHY WE DO WHAT WE DO!!! If I had reacted to my assumptions about where she was, who she might be with, or why she was pissy with me, I would have had a HUGE fight and things would be 4 steps back. I did not react. Sure. I thought those things, but I did not give them a voice. I do not post this to make me look good. I actually don't feel good, but I just talked to my W, who is hurried, yes, but otherwise in a fine mood, even joking with me about which team my son will be on, etc. What I am saying is that in the past, I would have at least gotten pissy back at her, if not outright angry. That would have been based on a pure reaction to her. I proved to myself just now that I am far from detached, but at least I have some control to resist the urge to attach now. Again, reacting to assumptions or W's mood=bad. Venting here/counting to ten, breathing=good. I get maybe a C for this test...
