Very wise words indeed. I myself struggle with trying to bring back the old R, when in fact, that R was flawed in the first place (either from my perspective or hers, obviously). The fact is, we DO have to move forward and either develop that new R with the spouse, or develop the new life without them. For many months, I moped about wanting my life back before this all came down, but you know, that isn't the life I want back because that's the life that she was unahppy with and, to some degree, so was I (that's another story for another day).

In any event, GH, you have made progress, but what have you done for you lately aside from the appearance changes?

"Achieve success, but without vanity; Achieve success, but without aggression; Achieve success, but without gain; Achieve success, but without force." Lao Tzu