Thanks again. As for my C, I know she questions some of the things I am doing and has admitted that this kind of sitch is new-ish to her. That said, she has NOT pushed for me to abandon anything. She and I have decided that it would be best if we work on MY issues and not so much on my marriage. For that, so far, she's been GREAT. Yea, there is some "inner child" stuff going on, but I have to say, I am getting a lot out of it. I had some reservations but I think it will be ok for now. I am willing to keep going so long as I keep feeling there is benefit for me and thus, my marriage. I have no interest in getting in touch with my inner child and losing touch with my W and M.
I told C first thing when I sat down in her office that divorce WAS NOT AN OPTION and I did not want to go down that road. I asked her what her views were on marriage versus the individual and she said she was pro-marriage (uses the Imago principals...very Freudian) and worked to help the individual grow towards a point where they could fully participate in and experience the marriage. Like many experts, C's and others, she just feels that a continuing affair makes it pretty hard to reconcile a marriage. I get that, I just am willing to give it time before I make any decisions.
So, your worries are my worries. Like so many others, I just opened the phone book and found a C. Actually I did it via some referral website but I did not comparison shop. I just needed someone who accepted my insurance and would see me ASAP before I lost my mind. She fit that bill and here I am.
For the next several sessions we have as a goal to work on my self esteem, control and communication issues. I believe it will do wonders for me.
As for hobbies, as I have said all along, I have always had a life outside the house, including work that many would consider a hobby. I have not stopped this so I think I am doing ok on that front.
