WOW...your C is confounded by your Ws A? This has me greatly concerned. Sorry...but I know there are many therapists out there babe, some good, some bad...some only looking out for their clients and not looking at the whole picture. I've seen some therapists steer some people here on DB in a direction that scares me and I see the end results and shake my head in disbelief.
You may consider actually calling a DB coach. They are solution based. I found that a Solution Based coach worked better in my sitch and I think many here will agree. Screw the past, so to speak...its the present, the future that we are working towards, right? Okay, so maybe someone was an alcoholic, someone was abused, blah blah, victim mentality going there...always the victim, not willing to move forwards and really look at themselves, they have this crutch that they can blame, the past. Well screw the past...I worked with Chuck from the DB coaching staff...we made a game plan, I was focused, I had goals. It gave me a purpose and I then slowly as I started moving forward with my goals, I realized that this really wasn't the R that I needed or wanted, but that's my life, my choice...however, having a game plan really does help here because my friend, your old M is dead and gone, you need to look towards the future for the possibilty of a new R with your W or perhaps, hard to even say the words, but with someone else as I have now done.
LOL...I too was the social creature before I met my exH, I started to return to me and then I met Dave, then slowly I found myself getting caught up in his world, but a great deal of that was because of his alcoholism...I am now returning back to the social creature I was...a great deal more wiser than I was years ago...learning about who I want to be, not who I am or who I was. Difference there...not willing to recreate history again...your W will also need to get to that place in her mind. She's running right now and om just happens to be there...nothing is saying that it can't be you there.
Okay, so you've been losing weight, you cut your damn hair off (you were hoping I was going to let this go didn't you???? NOPE!!) (Sorry, I was damaged goods from the moment I laid eyes on David Lee Roth back in 1977...
So what else have you been doing for you on a social basis? How are you escaping the insanity right now? Hobbies, etc?
