I have to say GH that you, as well as many others on here, have amazing courage and fortitude. Despite the sitch, you are really coming to find yourself and recognizing a lot about you and maybe what was missing in your R. One of the things I seriously struggle with is being an enabler. At this point, I guess I am fortunate in that my W hasn't been carrying on a relationship outside of her feelings and at work (at least as far as I can tell). There are no phone calls or dates, etc. So, in some ways I guess that's a good thing. On the other hand, I question whether I would have the fortitude to allow those things to happen. At this point, I have to be honest with myself and say, most likely, not. Of course, I can't say for sure, but the way I feel right now is that if it comes to that, I will seriously struggle with whether or not I am enabling. The other side of the coin is that I guess if I did enforce some "tough love" at that point, then I jeopardize my relationship with my girls in the process. Ain't life grand?
"Achieve success, but without vanity; Achieve success, but without aggression; Achieve success, but without gain; Achieve success, but without force." Lao Tzu
