Ok, girls get your whips, guys get ready to b@#$h slap me.
Something that's bothering me, and I know it shouldn't, is that my W, in the bomb speech said that I have always been a great friend. I know that's probably true, even from her perspective. She just said that she had problems with us as lovers because she just didn't feel that way anymore. SO, here comes captain DB, swooping in to be the best friend a WAW ever had. One problem, friendship was never the problem, it was romantic love. I am stuck thinking that all this DBing is really just proving to her that I can be the greatest friend a woman could ever have, even sticking by her while she does another man. WHAT A GREAT GUY! So, am I wrong to think that my DBing, detaching and all the rest could backfire on me? I AM doing things that probably make me more attractive. I have lost a ton of weight and have kept it off. My eating habits are much healthier. I work out more. I have grown back my goatee that I have for the first 6 years she knew me. My hair that used to be long (cut it about 4 years ago) is now short and I wear it in messy spikes (started that about 2 weeks ago). I am also never caught dressing like a slop. I didn't do it much before but now I am dressed well all the time, and most of the time much better than before. I am getting a LOT of compliments from women I work with. Some notice what I have done, the others just tell me I am looking good. It feels great, but the one woman I want to notice seems less interested than ever. Anyway, my change in appearance and attitude is indeed personal and for me, but it sure would help if my W would give me any sign that she notices. She is not flirty at all. Maybe it's the OM factor. Who knows. So there you have it. Please tell me why I am way off base with this and slap me back into the temple to pick up that burning hot pot with my forearms (for you youngsters, nevermind)...
