Thank you so much for your kind words. I am not sure if I "have my stuff together" as it often feels like a real challenge each day, but it did make me feel good that what I said might be of value.
I did have a little comment on this statement, that I wanted to forward:
Quote: If only I could afford to have a phone consultation.
I know I have spent a ton of money lately on self help and marriage-saving stuff. I have been getting weekly massage, MC & later IC, going to health practioners (Sho Tai, reflexology), a mountain of books ($300 + worth - such as DB, DR, 5 Love Languages, His Needs Her Needs, Surviving an Affair, When a Mate Wants Out, etc. etc.), the DB coaching apointments etc. But the costs to me of NOT doing these things would be far greater than the money I have been spending. I have decided that even if I need to work a little more, eat a little less, what ever, that this must be my priority right now. I can leave no stone unturned. I encourage you to find a way to do the things you believe will be most helpful to you, no matter what. Money concerns are a way for people to stay stuck. I speak this from experience, and have had to re-learn this lesson a few times . In fact, when my H started his A, I was in a real deep worry about money which I had voiced repeatedly. Wasn't doing very much of this healthy stuff then, and I surely wish I had been. Perhaps some of this pain (and even the A) could have been prevented. Either way though, the sooner action is taken to do something that will help and support the direction you are trying to go, the better. Getting a small extra job (even an extra kid after school, doing laundry for others, selling used clothes, whatever) could be the $$ difference needed to break apart something that's stuck. I am a real believer in not letting money be a reason to stop you. I taught this to my daughters better even than I have lived it myself (as I said, I have had to relearn this lesson a few times). So is money is an issue, stop letting it be the issue, and make what you want to do the priority. Everything will shift with that kind of commitment Or so I keep learning
PositivelyListening ************************************** When one door of happiness closes, another one opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us. - Helen Keller
. In fact, when my H started his A, I was in a real deep worry about money which I had voiced repeatedly. Wasn't doing very much of this healthy stuff then, and I surely wish I had been. Perhaps some of this pain (and even the A) could have been prevented. Either way though, the sooner action is taken to do something that will help and support the direction you are trying to go, the better. Getting a small extra job (even an extra kid after school, doing laundry for others, selling used clothes, whatever) could be the $$ difference needed to break apart something that's stuck. I am a real believer in not letting money be a reason to stop you. I taught this to my daughters better even than I have lived it myself (as I said, I have had to relearn this lesson a few times). So is money is an issue, stop letting it be the issue, and make what you want to do the priority. Everything will shift with that kind of commitment 
Or so I keep learning 
