Erin, sorry to hijak here... PL, what a great post!
Quote: Also, according to the DB coach I spoke with (Chuck) it is not anti-DB to let them see our emotions sometimes. You just don't want to beg, plead or whine. Stand straight and tall, make a great life for you and your son, and if he asks how you feel, tell the truth - just don't get out of control about it. Save the desperation for us. Because they can't handle it. You don't want to trigger their guilt and have them feel pressured. But for them to have an inkling that a wonderful person like you will still make yourself available to him emotionally - that's a good thing. It leaves intrigue about what else might also be available if he was ever interested in pursuing more again.
This is so true!! If only I could afford to have a phone consultation. My emotions are all over the place. I CANNOT let my H see the negatives ones anymore! He truely cannot handle it and he becomes very angry when it feels like I am pressuring him for answers. I believe this anger is more towards himself and his guilt. He is projecting it onto me because he does not want to feel the guilt and the self-hatred.
Erin, take heed to PL's advise it sounds like she's got her stuff together!
