I know in my case, my family would NOT be very accepting of the sitch and it would put tremendous strain on my marriage (by way of open disdain for W), if they knew the truth.
This is true for my family as well, GH. They will hate H forever. But, the decision to tell them any info is crazily tied to my hope about the sitch. I can't imagine telling my parents in a year "H and I are divorcing. I don't want to, but its out of my hands. Oh yeah, we've been separated since last April." They love him like a son. They will be devestated. On the other hand, I would continue to avoid honesty about my sitch, even though it is hurting my relationships with people, if I really thought we had a shot of making it through this. As I can't predict the future, I suppose I just need to take a stand. I think I will tell sister most of it - although she's been here all day and I still can't bear to talk about A. Makes it too real to say it out loud...
Needless to say, with H in Germany visiting OW this very minute, my hope quotient is low right now. I think I need to sit on this for a bit longer.
We have MC again next week. I really don't want to continue going if it is just to assuage H's guilt - but how to get a straight answer on this? Or, should I just be happy that he wants to continue to see me in therapy a few times a month, and be glad for whatever aid MC does provide as the separation continues? Do you all see MC as a clear hindrance to DBing, or just a possible hindrance? e
