Erin, I would say to do what's right for you, and not to worry about the money. I mean, if you end up with a D, he's going to have to pay child support and some alimony, right? He'll have to basically pay for two residences then, right?

Personally, I don't think you can handle his being around before the trip. I think it would drive you nuts.

On the other hand, it would help you with S2, and the ability to leave S2 with H might enable you to go out and GAL more.

I think that just about everyone on this board would say that if you can handle your S being at home and can DB effectively from that position, that's generally better. I couldn't handle it, and I'm glad I kicked my W out, so you have to take my advice from that standpoint.

The LORD is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth." (Psalm 145:18)