I am sorry things went down like that. As for it meaning you are done here, well, that is up to you honey. It CAN mean that for sure. I think we all understand here that each of us has that line, and when out WAS cross it, we cannot go on with the process. That line is in RADICALLY different for everyone. Where one person can deal with their spouse taking week long vavcations with the OP, others can't take even knowing their spouse HAS an OP. For some, the line is drawn when the WAS starts taking calls at home from OP, or maybe when it is confirmed as physical, etc.
Only YOU can decide where the line is for you, and when enough is enough. Your H says he isn't sure. That's probably true, and in the state he's in right now, that uncertainty leads him to explore the truly unknown, even at the risk of losing what he already has. It sucks, but they all do it to varying degrees.
I truly understand you not wanting to let your heart feel his 95%-ness as a positive. I really do understand. Fact is that you may be deciding it's over and now you may see him start to come back. It happened to Tim, and countless others here. It's natural because the WAS want what they cannot have. Now that he cannot have you, you become the alluring prospect. That REALLY sucks because I believe you when you say it's over. I am NOT saying to hold out hope, again, that's not something someone else can make you do.
I guess I hope, for your sake, that he does realize his error and though you may have moved on, that you have a tiny crack in the wall to see him coming.
