I can totally relate to your doubt, and to your story in general. I also have a son, 3 1/2, and never ever wanted to be a single mom! I found out my H was having an A (he claims, an EA) about 5 mos ago and aft 1 mos of MC (and finding out he was still in contact w/ OW) I asked him to move out. Since then it has been one lie/cover-up after the next. His first big lie was about staying at a friend's house and spending Thanksgiving weekend with him....I called said friend the day before Thanksgiving only to find that they had had coffee once and that was the extent of their contact. Instead my H went to LA to be w/ the OW and supposedly ended up in ER w/ anxiety attack . I found the DR a couple of months ago and since I've been DB'ing I don't seem to notice as much lying. I try hard not to snoop (not perfectly) and am trying to just focus on me. I still catch H in lies, and honestly I can't understand why he continues to lie when I already know about the OW, but whatever. In MC 2 wks ago (we go for the sake of our son) he admitted to not being happy, that maybe he had made a mistake. Meanwhile I was beaming from just taking care of me. Anyway, he said he was happy for me. In MC this wk he seemed cold again. What I'm realizing is what I've read here - don't believe anything you hear and only half of what you see! My H seems so confused and ambivalent, it is worse if I get rooted into anything he says at this point. I guess I'm just trying to share with you that - no matter how big a lie, no matter how painful, no matter how seemingly damaging - it is not the end of the story. Keep the Faith! M
Monica
My sitch: Me 40 H 30 M 8 yrs 1 S5.5 Bomb Oct 2005 Sep Nov 2005 H w/ Ow I filed for LS June 2007 H responded w/ D 2007 I have sole P custody, joint L Just need to take care of Final Judgement papers
. I found the DR a couple of months ago and since I've been DB'ing I don't seem to notice as much lying. I try hard not to snoop (not perfectly) and am trying to just focus on me. I still catch H in lies, and honestly I can't understand why he continues to lie when I already know about the OW, but whatever. In MC 2 wks ago (we go for the sake of our son) he admitted to not being happy, that maybe he had made a mistake. Meanwhile I was beaming from just taking care of me. Anyway, he said he was happy for me. In MC this wk he seemed cold again. What I'm realizing is what I've read here - don't believe anything you hear and only half of what you see! My H seems so confused and ambivalent, it is worse if I get rooted into anything he says at this point. I guess I'm just trying to share with you that - no matter how big a lie, no matter how painful, no matter how seemingly damaging - it is not the end of the story. Keep the Faith! M 
