flutterbyme - thanks for your insight - Yes I too have on occasion wondered how the heck he could have conjured up so much emotion for somebody he doesn't even know! The answer I keep soming back to is this: that love he is sharing with her, showering upon her, soaking up with her is really his affection for me horribly misplaced. I think of it like this - if you beleive in physics, and you believe in the law of conservation of energy, then how on earth can new love appear out of nowhere?(Air Supply lyrics would help here) For whatever reason, he can't be close to me right now - perhaps MLC, perhaps my own failings in this marriage, probably some of both - so he sends the love he has cultivated for me over the last twelve years to OW! As I type I see how cooky this sounds, and I swear I haven't been drinking. It's just that you really got me to thinking about what our H's are feeling when they are with OWs. And also, thanks so much to saying that you do think they can come back from this neverland of A. I pray every day for the patience this process takes.
Virginia - if you are reading - I can't tell you how your words helped me through today. I have really been feeling low and inpatient and have worried that I don't have the discipline for this. Anyway, I'd like to stew on what you've said for a bit, but in the meantime, wanted you to know that I so appreciate the time and wisdom you are extending to me. Thanks Erin
