That was like a knife in my heart. Why does she get to have so much influence over him? She gets to play saviour.
I know. I really do understand. H's o.w. is doing the same thing. I think because the WAH (in both of our cases) blames the marriage, etc. for all their unhappiness, it doesn't matter if we try to gently talk to them to get help, etc. I've been there, done it with my H. Only when o.w. told him he was depressed did he listen up. We are in a very difficult position right now. Nothing we say is going to get through to them. But in the end, we can hope our H's see the o.w. for what they really are.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
