We need NY S to chime in here; he’s very good at explaining these things, but I’ll do my best.
What you’ve got on your hands is an angry WAH, right? That’s because he’s feeling guilty and ashamed at his actions. Being around you only reminds him of the louse he is behaving like right now. It isn’t your fault. He sees you and knows you’re his wife and he’s not capable of being a good husband to you. Thus, the guilt. Thus, the anger.
You are right, these WAH’s are darn lucky we don’t react like the majority of spouses in our position: clothes on the front lawn, locks changed, lawyers called. Do you know that during all of this, I’ve not broken/thrown away one single item of his?
Only you can decide if you have had enough. It’s been said we’ll know that time when it comes in a peaceful way. I’m not trying to say you should give up on DB’ing. I hope you can find a way to let what your husband says not affect you, because he’s really mad at himself for the way he is acting. Hugs, Hope
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
