what a beautiful post. I can relate to so much of what you have written. I hope you write now as you obviously have a talent for it.
I too found with DBing that although my marriage is probably unsalvagable, I found the real me. The one that had been lost along the way. I also found that I love me, whereas I don't think I had for a long long time.
Thank you for your post. I wish you all the best in your new better life. Bring on Act II!