"She wants a good divorce??(is there such a thing)She still has this thought in her head that everything could still be the same. We can be a happily Divorced couple."
Oh this is my H's fantasy also. He thinks we can be very good lifelong friends. Maybe a whole lot of time could change my mind, but I doubt it. That's one thing that I can not imagine ever happening. Only in his dreamworld.
Let me ask a question, Mar... why is it that H's thinking of being friendly with you post divorce is a "dreamworld" but you thinking the opposite isn't?
Yes, I know... H has done a lot of damage, this wasn't your doing, it was him, and so on... yet, the choice to forgive is yours, the choice on whether to establish a friendship of sorts forward going is yours. Perhaps you wish not to right now, but that perception may change, as you've indicated in your post. It's then really about you and what you wish to do, and how you choose to go forward, and not really about his being in a "dreamworld" or "fantasy", you see. His view is as real to him as yours is to you. It's all up to you.
