I absolutely disagree with you. What you are telling him to do is to not even try to fix his R. He wants to fix things, he wants to improve....what did you do? Did you try anything or did you find it easier to think "she's cold, it's all her fault." If you think that, you're disillusioned.
What you are doing IMPO is cold, colder than having an SSM. You are living a diliberately cold calculated time in your M until YOU decide it's time for it to end. I have this feeling in my gut as I said.....your W doesn't have a clue what's in store for her....because you haven't told her....she thinks you two are "in tune" because you aren't clueing her in to the fact that you two aren't....so YOU are misleading her.
So...if this is your take on things, why are you participating on a BB where people want help FIXING their R's....in order to be happier and live in a more fulfilling R?
I notice you still haven't mentioned ANYTHING you tried in order to address the stich in your R. Did you try anything you read on here or did you just give up?
