My post was not angry in the slightest.

I acknowledge your pain, and admire your integrity to your children.

Lets face it, all the crying, and the "woe is me.. she won't play with my john thomas anymore" does no good.
A lesson I mentioned you have learned. which places you ahead of the game for any potential chances there maybe.

I did not even mention sex.. thought I would see just how cold she was. After a year without her complaining once,

This just shows a complete lack of understanding to the fact that women are wired completely different then us.

I choose to honor them with a good nature and not only no complaints but happiness
This is great. but the following belies it.
recently told me " isn't it nice that we are so in tune now?" I almost fell on the floor laughing.

this attitude is completely incongruent to your being happy with the quo

I suggest you reread the beginning of my post. aintgetany needs some tough love, but he didnt come to Divoce busting to listen to someone tell him its hopeless and to tell him to plot his D. There are myriad other places for that.
If its safer for you to remain hopeless, well I understand that too.