Quote: It's almost like some people are wired backwards and physical touch makes them UNCOMFORTABLE.
Yes Cemar we are all wired DIFFERENTLY.
I could be sitting here saying some people are wired backwards because sitting around shooting the breeze about life the universe and everything makes them UNCOMFORTABLE. Yes they are, and I have to face the fact that my H is one of them, he prefers to DO something than talk about stuff.
My two children are wired differently. My S almost from the moment he was born was more comfortable left in his cot or pram than cuddled up unless he was nursing. I could not believe that a newborn baby would not prefer to be snuggled up to me than left on his own but he did. My D4 cannot exist unless she is wrapped around someone, and to be perfectly honest much as I love physical touch the level to which she takes it CAN be irritating.
You are different from your W, Cemar. You just have to face it, the level to which you require physical touch is probably quite irritating to her. And it is NOT about generalising between men and women. I was driven mad in the early days by the way my H's eyes would glaze over in the middle of a discussion and then he would disappear for a cigarette, before going off to do something else. It is only since I have stopped pursuing him for this type of interaction that slowly we are starting to spend more time chatting.
You have one big problem I don't though Cemar, I was able (and still am able) to get my chat fix elsewhere! But I sure would prefer to be getting it with my SO. And yes I see couples in their 50s or so that are interacting in that way and I am envious. H and I have no problem sitting snuggled on the sofa but I could kill for a decent conversation with him now and again.
take care
Fran
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
