QUOTE ____________________________________________________________ Did you get married to have a sex partner for the rest of your lives or to spend the rest of your life with your best friend, in good times and bad, sickness and health? ____________________________________________________________
I think the answer would be a universal yes to both of these questions. Why would it have to be one or the other? If I were to get married, I would want a lifelong lover (sex partner) and best friend. That is usually the presumption under most marriages.
QUOTE ____________________________________________________________ By the way, her question is very understandable to me. She's not asking you in the literal sense. She's asking if she has any value to you other than a sex partner. ____________________________________________________________
Or she is just making her HD husband try to feel bad for having needs for sex and closeness that she is unwilling to meet. The original post indicated that there have not been any real issues in the marriage except for the mismatch in libido. It sounds like he hasn't exactly been getting much sex in the last (?) years, so does she really think he would still be around now if he ONLY wanted her for sex?
If the HD spouse says nothing about his/her SSM, then nothing will change. However, when the HD spouse speaks up about it and they keep on the issue after nothing has changed, suddenly all they care about is sex.
