What a name to choose. First of all, you'll feel a bit better about your situation if you can change your name to something more positive or reflective of who you truly are as a person. If the fact that you're not getting any is who you are, then I can clearly see your wife's perspective.
It's quite obvious to me that she's had a trigger of something very traumatic from her past. I'm willing to bet it's definitely sexual abuse. She is feeling completely bewildered, broken and numb. She is afraid of your reaction to her "victimized" self... the one you had no idea existed, but the one who desperately needs to heal.
I'm glad you were able to convince her to stay home. I'm wondering why her first choice was out of State?? Someone already asked you that. Could you please shed some light on that for us?
There is hope for your marriage. There is hope that she will find the courage to dust herself off and grow to trust you again, even work towards being sexual again. It's not easy for either spouse. You will have to be extremely patient, self-soothing, confident, loving and compassionate. But, there is never any guarantee. How strong do you feel? How much do you love her?
For those of you telling MrScared that his wife is being completely selfish, and dillusional, what a shame! Did you get married to have a sex partner for the rest of your lives or to spend the rest of your life with your best friend, in good times and bad, sickness and health?
By the way, her question is very understandable to me. She's not asking you in the literal sense. She's asking if she has any value to you other than a sex partner. She's crying out to you for love, yes, the unconditional kind.
