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she doesn't feel I am capable of living a life away from it..




What if that's true?

When are you going to tell her that she's right?

Why are you ashamed that this might be true? It's human nature after all.
You need to set some boundaries with her, the first one being that you will not live without intimate touch in your life and the second one being that you will not tolerate false claims of abandonment--the next time she does that, she should expect that her things will be on the lawn.

You are being a pushover and allowing her to make you feel ashamed of needing touch. You are not an ogre because you need this. It's who you are.

HP